Being Julia {Book review}

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I was thrilled when I heard about the upcoming publication of a new book on PDA, Being Julia. This is the story of Julia Daunt, an adult diagnosed with Pathological Demand Avoidance, ADHD and psychotic episodes. 

Co-written with Ruth Fidler, a well-known independent education consultant with many years experience in the field of PDA, Julia's memoir covers life from a very young age right up until recent times. The book includes many examples of school and social experiences, with some earlier memories being provided by Julia's mum and old school reports.

Julia was assessed for PDA at the Elizabeth Newson Centre at the age of 12 and she shares how initially she tried to hide her diagnosis from others. She explains that she felt embarrassed and didn't want to be judged - that's a phrase I definitely relate to as it has cropped up in our house several times over the last few years. A quote from Julia's mum also jumped out at me:

Most children, even babies, can be persuaded in some way. Not Julia, right from the start. It was her way or all hell broke loose...

Chapters cover a variety of issues such as growing up, avoidance, language and communication, friendships and relationships as well as meltdowns. Common worries for parents and carers of children with differences are whether their children will have friends, or how they will get on in school, and Julia writes about how she got on in these areas. Julia also bravely shares some details around adolescent relationships and vulnerability which are important for all parents and carers to consider, in my opinion. Being aware of the pitfalls has got to be a good thing.

There's a whole chapter on sensory differences which I think will be very enlightening to others, including a few pages on interoception, a sense that isn't yet widely understood. Julia also shares some good techniques which have helped to keep her sensory system regulated. Throughout the book there are many helpful examples of how Julia has experienced daily life and events and an in-depth look at different types of demands and Julia's responses to them. There is also a whole chapter written by her partner Paul that gives a unique insight into living with a person with PDA and the amount of care and accommodations which are needed. 

As a parent to a child with PDA who will grow up to be an adult with PDA, I've always listened carefully to what adult PDAers have to say (or write). It has been important for me to absorb these insights, to understand the 'can't not won't' aspects. I want to be able to provide support in whatever way I can for our daughter, and others like her who face more challenges in every day life than most people.

I devoured 'Being Julia' in just a couple of sittings and I highly recommend ordering and reading this as soon as you can - to be honest it is so good I know I will read it more than once. An extra bonus is that Julia has kindly included her recipe for the best ever chocolate brownies at the back of the book.... I'm off to make some right now!

Being Julia is available for pre-order now, from Amazon (out on 19th August).

For more information about PDA, please read the book shown below: 

'Understanding Pathological Demand Avoidance Syndrome in children' *

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(Other PDA books can be found in my 

'Books about the Pathological Demand Avoidance profile of autism' review post.)

To find out more about our experiences, please check out our 'About Us' page or the summary of our experience in Our PDA Story Week 35. If you are looking for more online reading about Pathological Demand Avoidance, the posts below may help.

What is PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance)?

Ten things you need to know about Pathological Demand Avoidance

Does my child have Pathological Demand Avoidance?

The difference between PDA and ODD

Strategies for PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance)

Pathological Demand Avoidance: Strategies for Schools

Challenging Behaviour and PDA

Is Pathological Demand Avoidance real?

Autism with demand avoidance or Pathological Demand Avoidance?

Books about the Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) profile of autism

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